There’s very little I can say to add to 6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person. I basically re-read the whole thing looking for a good standalone blurb, and while the article is great, it doesn’t blurb that well. But here’s one on character over technique:
…it’s always “How can I get a job?” and not “How can I become the type of person employers want?” It’s “How can I get pretty girls to like me?” instead of “How can I become the type of person that pretty girls like?” See, because that second one could very well require giving up many of your favorite hobbies and paying more attention to your appearance, and God knows what else. You might even have to change your personality.
And a great one on “who you are inside” being generally deployed as bullshit:
Don’t get me wrong; who you are inside is everything — the guy who built a house for his family from scratch did it because of who he was inside. Every bad thing you’ve ever done has started with a bad impulse, some thought ricocheting around inside your skull until you had to act on it. And every good thing you’ve done is the same — “who you are inside” is the metaphorical dirt from which your fruit grows.
But here’s what everyone needs to know, and what many of you can’t accept:
“You” are nothing but the fruit.
Nobody cares about your dirt. “Who you are inside” is meaningless aside from what it produces for other people.
But the whole thing is much better. I don’t agree with everything, but it’s a much-needed kick in the pants for me and you.